Our society is in
total disarray today, not because of any other fact, but precisely traceable to
homes, upbringings or marriage institutions which had laid wrong foundations.
The family unit is the fulcrum or microcosm of the larger society, states and nations.
Once a marriage is
contracted between a man and a woman, the next generation that will either
build or destroy humanity is being created.
Come to look at it
very critically. Some marriages produce tyrants, fraudsters, armed robbers,
drug addicts and prostitutes etc from a wrong union. Yet, some are producing presidents,
leaders, inventors, religious leaders and good people who affect the world for
good as products from a good union.
Its been on record on
a higher scale that most married partners are not happy in their marriages,
while divorces are also on alarming rate. Like every thing about life, there
must be simple, yet secret principles that must be followed. Nothing is more
special in this life than having a very caring, loving, happy and friendly spouse.
It makes the old grow younger, make the sick get healed faster than expected,
even without medication and brings strong spiritual sexuality that results in
peak performance in your career.
In this age of social
media, this institution called marriage is becoming more complex. We are in a generation
that is wired differently in terms of sexuality, chemistry, emotion,
spirituality and values. Things are going wrong on daily basis. This is why
most marriages and weddings done in fun fares are making it to the courts
between months to years as they collapse with once happy couples turning to
enemies, killing and unleashing violence against each other. It’s a blame game.
However, there is
another group of married people who are alive and well. They are at the top of
life. They understand how to be in marriage. They are alive, enjoying
blissfully this institution, thanking their maker, praising each other
from their hearts and not their heads. They are on top of their game and happy
inside.
When your marriage is
right, all other areas of your life has a near 100% of being right.
But many are married
to their enemies today. Man's first enemy is in his household says the holy
book. Single women of over 30 years of age mostly divorces who out of lack of
knowledge or being ignorant and patient left their once thriving homes live with
regrets today because of outside or external influences. Likewise, so many men
are in the same category due to pride and wrong influences. What a tragedy!
How then can you know
if you are about to marry your enemy, if you are presently dating or how can
you know you are already married to an enemy. I mean the wrong person.
Let me state that some
have openly and blindly married their enemies hoping for change or better
marriage. Some have also circumstantially changed midway in their marriage
because of wrong associations.
Depending on who is
involved, broken down marriages and the ones going through challenges could be
turned into a successful one if you also master the art and science of people.
I mean, understanding and learning how to turn enemies to friends.
It is very important
that you learn and know the difference between friends, allies and enemies in
your relationship.
1 Your Spouse does not
have respect for your father and mother.
If you are dating and
your partner does not have respect for his or her parents, it is likely he or
she will not respect your parents too. Don't expect her to change after
marriage. If you are married already and your spouse does not have respect for
your parents, you know he or she is an enemy. Your parents are the source of
your coming to earth. Therefore even if they are bad or not likable, it does
not matter. The Bible says honour your father and mother so your days on earth might be long.
A man or woman who
doesn’t have respect for parents has a higher percentage tendency not to
respect other people in the society.
2 He does not have
love or regard for your relatives.
You are not going to
have perfect in-laws. But you must be able to accommodate, tolerate and relate
with them with love and regards. A wife who would openly fight, insult or abuse
the brothers or sisters of her husband, quarrel with them and would not want
them near her home is already on her own when trouble looms. Same is with man.
And while dating, you
must observe and correct or live with this or stop that relationship.
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3. Your partner runs his
or her life by someone else.
You are dating that
Lady or that guy and for every step he or she is going take in life issues and
affairs with you, she consult or take high percentage advise from her friends
or sister and act only on their opinion. Know that she or he is an enemy to
self and to your relationship. There is a lot of married mama's boy out there
whose marriages are in total disarray. They want to buy a car, go for vacation,
or take any decision with their spouse, they consult their mother first for her
opinion and whatever she says is the final decision.
A married woman who
takes order from her father, mother or sister instead of taking decision with
her partner is still "unmarried" because that relationship is heading
for doom.
4. You are dating or
married to a sniper.
You are dating that
lady or guy and he/she is actually discussing all your home secrets with known or
unknown contacts to you. All her discussions with the contacts are toxic,
inimical to the progress of your relationship or future. Or you are married and
your partner takes all secrets to an outsider without your knowledge all geared
towards negative.
Most women today are
becoming enemies to their relationships by falling and suffering from this high
sniper habits and once thriving marriages are packing and falling like stack of
cards. Some even confide more in toxic religious “leaders” than their
partners.
A married woman and
her husband plans for business and planned to get a loan. After agreeing, the wife
starts a reportorial conversation with her younger sister on social media messenger
secretly and the sister tells her not to agree to their discussions and
agreement with the husband.
When you discover by
accident or uncover sniper acts of your partner while dating, know she will be
a great enemy to your marriage. If you discover this while married, you
will need to take steps to deal with the situation.
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5. Gossiping
Not all ladies gossips
and not only ladies gossips. Men do. A gossip is likely to be a talkative. And
a talkative will not know when he leaks his secret. A man who talks too much,
run down others, say bad about his friends or bring heads together in conflict
with careless talks and boast much about himself will pose a great enemy to his
marriage.
Treat gossiping as a
sickness and find a lasting solution to it before it will ruin your
relationship. Marriages are breaking down these days alarmingly because of
gossip mills. Unfortunately, a gossip never gossip for the good reasons but for
wrong ones. God gave you one mouth and two ears so you can listen more and talk
less.
6. Lack of self
discipline.
A man or woman who
lacks self discipline is already an enemy to his or her relationship. Most lack
of self discipline manifests itself in excesses in eating, drinking
intoxicating beverages and in sex. Go to homes, marriages, dating relationships
that are all disjointed and you will see men who are addicted to drinking every
night, women who go back to have sex by influence from their ex lovers and
turning into sex perverts and for money, etc.
A man or woman who is
not disciplined will rather want anything through short cuts. They don’t have
time for delayed gratifications.
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7. Impatient and non
tolerant partner
Marriage is an
institution that comes with challenges universally. These may range from
financial, health, emotional etc. A man who is not patient could want to make
money quick to be like his mates and satisfy his lover by going to steal.
I was taken aback once
I met a woman who was very hostile and intolerant, and impatient to her husband
who had stroke. She will not help her husband to the toilet, talk to him
anyhow, and became hostile to the sick man, all these led to the husband dying.
She was a great enemy.
A woman who wants her
lover or husband to bring money home, no matter the source of the money is
already an enemy. And lots of these abound everywhere in our new society.
8. Sex pervert and nymphs.
You are dating a guy
or lady and he or she wants sex all the time. You are in trouble. Sex is
spiritual and for a purpose. However, nymphs and perverts could recklessly want
to have it anytime and anywhere. A man or woman who is addicted to sex could
become adulterous in marriage.
If your future spouse
or your spouse today, don't treat sex as an important part of your beign-ess
and respect it, watch it. Perverts can date your friend or just do it for the
fun of it. Some men do anything to have sex with a lady, including reckless
spending. Nymphs can kill their spouse when denied sex.
9. Values in marriage
Every marriage must
have a vision. Without a vision, marriage partners will just be wandering.
What's the value that is attached to your marriage? You are dating a guy who does
not see anything about religion or don't see that there is a universal force of
creation or does not see anything as force of creation higher then him, or is
engaged in practices that are spiritually detrimental to humanly beneficial
practices, then you will need to watch it as he or she is an enemy.
There is a need to
find out who your partner really is before marriage. It’s your responsibility.
Stories are out there of ladies who got married in the Church, only to discover
their partners belong to the occult.
10. Mediocre and no
ambition.
There are lots of men
and women out there who already accept life at the lowest level. They don't
believe in risk taking; don't see themselves as deserving to be rich. They see
people who are rich as thieves, bad people and killers. They believe rich
people have done bad things to become rich. They are not ambitious.
Most times, people
with no ambition are also lazy and will always talk bad about those who are at
the top of their lives. They live unhappy and unfulfilled lives. They are going
no where and love to sleep.
If your partner falls
into this group, know you are with an enemy. He is toxic and will always give
reasons you should not dare to think big.
11. He/she is careless
about what he eats or drinks.
Late successful steel
merchant, Andrew Carnegie once stated that “if a man can take control of what
he eats, drink as well sex, then he will take control of his other areas of
life to a greater extent. He will be in control of his life”.
You cannot marry a
dead person. If you are single and dating and your partner eats junk, drinks
alcoholic beverages carelessly with anyone and anywhere and engage in
unprotected and uncontrolled sex with multiple partners, he is likely not going
to live long. If he takes or is addicted to drugs and alcohol, you already know
he is gradually killing his immune system. He must learn how to quit smoking.
If you are already
married and your spouse is involved in the above, you have to find ways to call
the enemy in him to order. Be bold enough to discuss openly with your
partner without confrontation.
The best way to bring
a change to your home is to deal with issues with projected empathy. Instead of
being paranoid or seeing your partner as unchanging, put yourself into him or
her and be positive, loving, caring.
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