The (Painful & Personal) Life Contentions I had to contend with on daily basis.

How to defeat life troubles and stay happy and peaceful

On daily basis, I had to contend with calls, chats, emails and phone encounters of the defeated, dejected and people at cross-roads. They come in different dimensions. Pains, Rejections and Life Adversities. Let me state that most of these are women. I also encounter some people who seem to have very toxic and boastful talks about life and these set falls among the men.

Of a truth, l must admit that I was never a good listener before until I learned that God gave us one mouth and two ears so we listen more than talk. I have improved so much in this regard. We are created for the hurting people and for the happy too (so we get happy with them during the happy times and comfort with them during trouble times).

How to bounce back from life’s setbacks and mistakes like a champion:

"You don't get in life what you want, but you get in life what you are" has been a sage statement.
Life is going to knock you down several times, you are going to face challenges, disappointments, breakdowns and "failures". But it wont matter. What matters is how you face it; either caving in or winning. You can bounce back from any setback if you set your mind on your come-back power. I wrote this book on how to truely face your setback and become a power-being. 

Tom a once bubbling guy had a great job and was doing well financially until 2009 when the global economic crisis swept him off unaware. His once thriving consulting business collapsed. He could not cater for the family. He saw the situation and gave in emotionally and continued to dwell on negative. Ultimately, negative thinking that things will never be good again continued to take over all his being. He attracted all negative emotions into his life. Low self esteem crept in and he became withdrawn from the public and illness took over his life. He lived in anger, resentment and loss of friendship and happiness. He allowed his setbacks to control his life. Finally, he attempted suicide but never succeeded. However, he never recovered from the setback till date.

How to Destroy Fear in Your Life, Before it Destroy You

We live in a world of terrorism, kidnapping, tragedies of all sorts and uncertainty. We live in a negative world. Most of us were born negative and we have various kinds of fears that are preventing us from taking the big steps in our lives or just scared of things which prevent us from enjoying life to the fullest.

It is a big tragedy to see men, women,  even young ones who have acquired phobia living a mediocre life. They refused to take the next step which is just the only step left for success and breakthrough in that endeavor.

7 Negative emotions that makes you remain poor

I have made mistakes in my life. In fact, I am a bunch of mistakes when it comes to life matters and I do not pretend about it. And I know so you are too. We will make mistakes tomorrow in all life issues, especially in our journey to wonderful living in financial freedom. But the truth is that most people are just stuck on issues of financial problems rather than standing and growing through it.

The story of two elderly female bread sellers

Each day, we learn lessons from life who is the greatest teacher. Life teaches us from the experience, character and observation of others as well as those of our personal experiences.  And if we have wisdom which is the principal thing, we are able to use these experiences and observation to our own advantage and that of generations to come. 

Today, I am telling a story of two bread sellers. They have most things in common; they are both older women, they are females; they speak the same language though from two different parts of the country and different tribes, they are both traders working from home. They both have grey hairs and both live in the same area, although they do not know themselves nor have they met once. They are both hardworking and enterprising.  For the purpose of this article, let me call old lady A as Ruth and B as Hannah since they are both Christians too and attend Churches regularly both in the week and on Sundays.  What I do know is that Hannah’s age will not be too much more than Ruth with 2 years.

5 Things that differntiates Visionary Business Leaders from Ordinary Leaders

Most people you will encounter in the process of your life activities will fall into two different category of leaders and business leaders. And time always tells. There are lot of ordinary business leaders in the work place as employees or as business owners. I have often been asked what are the qualities that a business man who want to make success should possess. The only way to also answer this question would be to look and study successful visionary business leaders. As always said, success leaves clues and these clues are what you need to understudy. Whatever kind of business you are going into or wherever you live, be it in India, Canada, Australia or Britain or even South Africa, Bahamas, Ghana or Kenya as well as Singapore, success clues are all the same. In fact, checkout the richest people in your country who are also visionary leaders and you will see that they leave clues of visionary leaders. In this article, I will be briefly looking at the clear differences between ordinary and visionary business leaders.

Interview: Sam Adeyemi Reveals How To Succeed Big in Life and Business Against All odds

Unarguably,  Sam Adeyemi, President of Success Power International and Senior Pastor, Daystar Christian Church  is one of Nigeria’s leading experts on personal development and self-mastery. Through his Success Power series on radio and television, Adeyemi has been able to build a unique brand that appeals to a broad spectrum of audiences. Adeyemi also runs an executive coaching programme where he guides people on how to apply success principles to achieve personal goals. A popular line from him is that  he came to Lagos 20 years ago with a pair of trousers, a shirt and a pair of shoes. Today, however, Adeyemi sits atop  mega business entities and has been in a position of influence around the world. In this chat  Adeyemi gives an insight into his world of dreaming and imagination where he says there is no boundary

Q: You have been associated with teaching people how to succeed in life and business, how to create wealth, and so on. But some think you are into pastoral engagement,  strictly…
 

A: Well, a lot of people recognised me for my broadcasts on Success Power before they knew me.  I am a pastor. The truth is that I have multiple gifts but the dominant one, from different gift tests I have taken, is teaching. And that can come in different dimensions. It simply means being able to get and structure information, and to teach it in a way that people can apply it to their lives with tangible results. So, on the platform of the Church I pastor, but on the platform of Success Power, which is non-religious, I am a teacher, coach and consultant.    

The Courage to Live Consciously. How to go past your fears in life

Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits
in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.  - Helen Keller

In our day-to-day lives, the virtue of courage doesn't receive much attention. Courage is a quality reserved for soldiers, firefighters, and activists. Security is what matters most today. Perhaps you were taught to avoid being too bold or too brave. It's too dangerous. Don't take unnecessary risks. Don't draw attention to yourself in public. Follow family traditions. Don't talk to strangers. Keep an eye out for suspicious people. Stay safe.

But a side effect of overemphasizing the importance of personal security in your life is that it can cause you to live reactively. Instead of setting your own goals, making plans to achieve them, and going after them with gusto, you play it safe. Keep working at the stable job, even though it doesn't fulfill you. Remain in the unsatisfying relationship, even though you feel dead inside compared to the passion you once had. Who are you to think that you can buck the system? Accept your lot in life, and make the best of it. Go with the flow, and don't rock the boat. Your only hope is that the currents of life will pull you in a favorable direction.
No doubt there exist real dangers in life you must avoid. But there's a huge gulf between recklessness and courage. I'm not referring to the heroic courage required to risk your life to save someone from a burning building. By courage I mean the ability to face down those imaginary fears and reclaim the far more powerful life that you've denied yourself. Fear of failure. Fear of rejection. Fear of going broke. Fear of being alone. Fear of humiliation. Fear of public speaking. Fear of being ostracized by family and friends. Fear of physical discomfort. Fear of regret. Fear of success.